Question: My child has grown accustomed to lying. He fabricates news as if they are true. Would you please give me a solution to save him from this vice? The answer: Lying has some reasons. One who lies aims for one of the following: 1. To harm or take revenge on some persons whom he hates or with whom he is angry 2. To escape punishment 3. To show off ... Read More »
Question: What is the influence of television and computer games on our children? Some people say they are good because they keep children away from bad deeds, but others mention the harms of these devices of which no house is empty. What is your opinion about the subject? The answer: My opinion is in accordance with the second one as Dr. Hamid al-Mutayri has detailed in al-Furqan Magazine, vol.121, saying ... Read More »
Question: My elder son does not respect me, and the younger one has begun imitating him in that for some time now, though I think that I have not failed in satisfying any of their rights. What do you think the reason is? The answer: Whenever the father shows his love to his children in different ways and on different occasions, they respect and regard him more, except if there ... Read More »
I feel I treat my children unequally and love some more than others: What is the solution to this problem?
Question: My children are not the same in most of their qualities, and this makes me and those who are in contact with them love some of them more than the others. Sometimes, I feel remorse; what is the guilt of this child who receives less love and sympathy than the others just because of the difference in beauty and sweet-tonguedness? Would you please guide me to the right, because, ... Read More »
My wife and I differ in ideas of child rearing and she acts contrary to my wishes in child rearing; what can I do?
Question: I suffer, in educating my children, from a problem that may destroy all my efforts. The problem is that my wife does not coordinate her efforts with me. For example, I ask my daughter not to buy toys for boys, but after a few days, I find my wife buying those toys for her. I encourage my older son to choose the profession of medicine, while my wife encourages ... Read More »
Question: What should we do to make a child give up playing with others’ things? The answer: The following steps are sufficient for this aim: 1. Let others not play with his things. 2. You should teach him about the rights of others and how to regard their possessions through stories and instructions in accordance with the level of his understanding. 3. When your child takes others’ things, you should ... Read More »
Please explain the Islamic philosophy of education so that I may compare it to modern theories of education.
Question: I am a university graduate. I am married and have children. I have read books on education by non-Islamic authors. Would you please show me the educational dimensions in Islam so that I can compare what I have read with what you will deign? The answer: First, I would like to invite you to read what our virtuous scholars have written in this field. They have written useful studies, ... Read More »
My wife does not visit friends and family because she wants to take presents but they are beyond my means; what do you suggest?
Question: My wife does not visit our relatives or my friends’ wives, because she dislikes visiting them without taking presents with her to give them. Unfortunately, the presents she thinks of are not cheap, and my financial state does not allow me to buy such presents. What would you suggest? The answer: This kind of thinking results from the influence of worldly cultures, which have prevailed over the life of ... Read More »
Question: We are quarrelsome spouses. We love each other, but we do not know why we quarrel, and over very trivial things too. After that, we sit crying and then come to an agreement with each other. After sometime, we return to another quarrel. Our marital life is ridiculous, is it not? Sometimes I think of divorce, but then I regret and ask Allah to forgive me. I am confused, ... Read More »
Question: Noisiness, quarrels, and idle talking prevail in our family life. There is no moment of tranquility that allows us to rest and think quietly. The flame of disputation burns at everything and at every moment in our house. I can say that there is no ordinary word said in our house unless hundreds of words burst after it like splinters everywhere, and that does not even include the quarrels ... Read More »