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10 Islamic Manners on the Dining Table (4)

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Complete etiquette of having food
It is Sunnat to eat with the right hand and sit on the knees. No food should be taken while lying or relaxing but one can rest on the left hand while having food as there is no harm. It is wrong to squat while eating and worse to put one foot over the other. Eating alone is Makrooh (abominable). It is Sunnat to eat with servants and slaves – sitting on the ground. It is a popular belief among Ulema that one should not eat while walking and that it is Sunnat to wash the hands before and after the meal and not to dry them on a towel.

Certain Ulema are of the opinion that one should not eat with people who take Haram (non-permissible) food or perform Haram (non-permissible) act. Even to sit on a table set for them is Haram. It is also Haram to sit and eat with those people who lie about Muslims and blame them of performing non-permissible deeds. To taste salt before and after the meals is Sunnat.

Another reliable tradition from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) states that a man who sits on the table with drunkards is cursed.

According to many of the reliable traditions, the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) has prohibited the use of left hand for having food except when a person is forced to or whose right hand is diseased.

Another tradition prohibits eating while lying on one’s stomach, relaxing or resting.

According to a tradition from Hasan, one day Ibad-e-Basari, a noted Sufi and Sunni scholar visited Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) while he was having food. Imam (a.s.)’s left hand rested on the ground. Ibad said to Imam (a.s.), “Aren’t you aware that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) has stopped us from resting our hand on the ground?” The Imam (a.s.) lifted his hand a little and rested it back again. Ibad commented again. The third time the Imam (a.s.) replied that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) has certainly not prohibited the resting of the left hand while having food.

A tradition states that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) used to eat only from what was in front of him. He used to sit as one sits in the state of Tashahud while praying. The right foot used to be on the left and the back of the right foot used to meet with the front of left. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) used to say that he was a creature who was like others and sat among them.

According to Hazrat Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.), when a person can use his right hand for eating, it is Makrooh to use the left hand.

According to Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.), one should not eat while walking, except when forced.

Many reliable traditions from Ahle bait and Hazrat Ali (a.s.) state that if a person wants his house to be blessed then he should wash his hands before every meal. Washing of one’s hands after taking the meal stops poverty and body pains.

Another tradition from Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) explains the etiquette of washing hands. Before the meal, the host should wash his hands first, followed by the guests and there may be no lapse of time between the washing of hands and having the meal. However, at the close of the meal, guest seated on the left of the host should wash his hands first followed accordingly by the other guests so that the turn of the host comes last. It is compulsory and obligatory for the host to wait with patience until all the guests have washed their hands.

Another tradition from the same Imam (a.s.) states that when one washes one’s hands before the meals one should not dry it but keep it wet for the food is blessed as long as the hands are wet.

It is narrated in a reliable tradition that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) asked Hazrat Ali (a.s.) to have salt before and after the meals; for, a man who takes salt before and after the meal is saved from seventy types of curses and a major of them is leprosy.

A tradition from Imam Mohammed Baqir (a.s.) says that salt is the cure for seventy diseases and if people will come to know the advantages of salt, they will not use any other cure except salt. The Imam (a.s.) also said that God asked Hazrat Moosa (a.s.) to order his followers to have salt before and after the meals and if the order was not obeyed they will be encircled with troubles and at that time they will curse themselves.

Another tradition advises one to have vinegar before meals as it sharpens one’s brains. A tradition states that Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) had said that he took salt before and after the meals.

Yaser, the servant of Imam Reza (a.s.) states that the Imam (a.s.) used to call the young and old and even all the servants before sitting for the meals and make these people sit with him.

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) commands us to take off socks and shoes before taking meals as; besides being the best of Sunnat, it is very comfortable for us.

A reliable tradition states that the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.), while having food with congregation, used to order the guests to start the food early and to finish late or at leisure so that they may be able to eat more.

It is narrated in a reliable tradition that Sama bin Mahran asked Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) what he should do first when the time for food and prayers collide. The Imam (a.s.) asked him to have his meal first if the time for prayer was there, but if having food will cover the precious time for prayer, then he should pray first and take his meal later.

10 Islamic Manners on the Dining Table (2)

eatThe right to have good tasty food and prohibition of greed

According to traditions coming from Ahle Bait (a.s.), it is Mustahab to eat and let others eat good and clean food and serve it with all formalities; and it is not right to make good food Haram upon oneself. It is however necessary that the food is sought by Halal means and one should not eat to the extent of forgetting prayers. One should not be like animals and only bother about eating and drinking; as eating and drinking is done for the sake of prayer and that one may gain strength. One should not spend to the extent of being known as spendthrift as God does not keep this type of man His friend.

According to a reliable tradition, Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) used to serve people with good bread, tasty Firni and delicious Halwa and used to say that when God is generous to us, we should be generous to people when serving them, and when we are in need we should be careful.

According to another tradition from the same Imam (a.s.), God will question every Momin on three topics on the day of judgement; firstly, what he had eaten, secondly, what he had worn and thirdly, how much he had fulfilled the desire of obedient wife and kept her away from Haram. Abu Khalid Kabuli visited Imam Mohammed Baqir (a.s.) who served him with delicious food during breakfast. When the Imam (a.s.) asked how was the food, Abu Khalid praised the food and recited this Aayat:

‘And on that day will be definitely questioned about the manifold blessings of Allah.’[2]

According to a tradition from Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.), if you eat too much food, then white spots appear.

According to a tradition from Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.), God keeps those people enemies who have these habits:

  1. a)      Who sleep during the day when they have not been awake during the night,
  2. b)      Who laugh meaninglessly,
  3. c)      Who eat after the stomach is full.

According to Hazrat Ali (a.s.), once Hazrat Esa (Jesus) (a.s.) visited a city where a man and a woman were fighting with each other in loud tones. Hazrat Esa (a.s.) enquired about the cause. The man replied that the woman was his wife, very pious and had no vices but he did not like her and desired to be separated from her. When the Prophet Esa (a.s.) further asked the cause he said that the woman was getting old and had lost the freshness of the face. Hazrat Esa (a.s.) asked the woman whether she wanted the freshness of her face. She replied, “Why not.” Then Hazrat Esa (a.s.) asked her not to eat much for it spoils the freshness of the face. When the woman acted accordingly she looked young and was accepted by her husband.

According to the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.), two things; leprosy and white spots are caused by five habits:

  1. a)      To use Noorah on Friday and Wednesday
  2. b)      To perform Wuzu and bathe with the water heated by sunlight
  3. c)      To eat during the state of Janabat
  4. d)      To cohabit with a woman when she is in period (monthly course)
  5. e)      To eat even when the stomach is full.

According to Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.), man needs to eat that much food which is needed for his strength. One part of the stomach should be for food, the second for water and third for breathing. One should not try to fatten oneself like the lamb meant for Zabeeha (slaughter). He also said that a full stomach causes revolt (disobedience) and quarrels.

Except fever, all sudden diseases and pains are caused by over-eating.

Another tradition from Hazrat Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) states that if the followers of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) follow the ways and manners of alien people especially those of dress and food, they will not be blessed and on the contrary, they will be degraded.

 

10 Islamic Manners on the Dining Table (1)

 

modern-dining-tables Utensils that are allowed in eating and drinking

Silver and golden plates are not permitted for eating and drinking and even their use for other types of work is doubtful. But it is better to avoid their use and display for decoration purpose. Any food which is kept in silver and gold is not permissible though this food can be taken out in other types of utensils. There is no reliability about this tradition. One group of Ulema does not perform Wuzu with utensils of silver and gold.

Many Ulema are of the view that the following things should not be made of either gold or silver. Surma bottle, scent case, agar case, chillum, lanterns (which are open on two sides and hung in holy tombs), case of the Quran, cases for the books of prayers and supplications, mirror cases and even walking sticks and pens; but according to Allama  Majlisi their non-permissibility is not proved. However, the end of Hukka pipe (Mohnal) should never be made of gold or silver. To eat or drink in all gilded utensils is Makrooh (detestable). If you eat in them, it is better not to let your mouth touch them.

If wine is kept in any utensil of glass or brass, then these utensils can be cleaned by washing them and even raw china which is not porous. But all clay utensils made by potter from ordinary clay need a lot of water to be cleaned once they have been soaked in dirt (wine). The water should be soaked in the clay pot to the extent that the impurity is removed. However, it is better not to use them.

According to a tradition from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.), the person who uses utensils of silver and gold in this world will be kept away from them in heaven.

According to another tradition, Umro Bin Abilmukdam brought a cup of water for Imam Ja’far-e-Sadiq (a.s.) which was joined with a silver piece which the Imam (a.s.) let loose with his teeth.

According to another tradition, Imam Reza (a.s.) has prohibited the use of clay pot coming from Egypt.

According to Buzi ibne Umar, he saw Imam Mohammed Taqi (a.s.) having food in a black bowl in the middle of which Sura ‘Qulho Wallah’ was written in yellow colour.

 

Seven etiquettes to be observed at the dining table

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There is certain etiquette to be observed at the dining table.

1-Starting with the name of Allãh and  thanking Allãh after the food

2-Tasting the salt at the beginning and the end of the dinner.

3-Eating with the right hand;

4-Making small morsels,not eating after satisfying the appetite and not over eating

5-Sitting longer at the table;

6-Chewing the food well;

7-Not looking at the faces of others while eating