Divorce in Islam-1

Islam wants the family covenant to be firm and stable and getting divorce is known in the Islamic teachings as the most hatred Halal and legal act. If two individuals want to get married with each other, according to Islamic laws it can be done so easily, but when spouses want to divorce there are some necessary conditions which make it hard to happen, like having witnesses that they are really just or the purity of the wives from the menstruation at the time of divorce.

In the religion of Islam there are many teachings regarding family that when we refer to them we understand that the foundation of family is so important, for example there are many recommendations to the wives and husbands that make the family covenant tighter, for example the women are advised to decorate themselves for their husbands or the men are advised to express their love to their wives. On the other hand in order to limit the sexual matters only for the spouses, Islam has ordered that the relation between men and women in the society must be pure and without any sexual attraction, for example expressing the love for the stranger women is forbidden or the decoration of women in public is considered as a great sin to the extent that according to the Narrations when a woman decorates herself for the stranger men, from the time of coming out to the time of returning she is being cursed by the angels of Allah. All of these recommendations that we mentioned few of them show the importance of the marriage and its stability in Islam.

Sometimes the dispute between wives and husbands can be solved through negotiations. Allah said in chapter Nisa verse 34:

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُواْ حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلاَحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا

“If you fear a breach between them send for an arbiter from his people and an arbiter from her people. If both wish reconciliation, Allah will bring success between them. Allah is the knower, the aware.”

Here is a question. If divorce is so much hatred so why has Islam allowed it and has not banned it?

First we should see whether divorce is good or bad? Because from one side it is defined as an allowed and Halal act and on the other side it is known as a hatred thing. If it is good, so everything that leads to that must be considered as a good thing. Or if it is a bad act should we close the door of that forever? Or is there any third solution?

Another question here which is important is this one: To whom should this right be given? Man or women or both?

To be continued.