August, 2016 - BYISLAM

Creation of Man & Woman

August 17, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

The Holy Qur’an

The Qur’an is verily the most important source for recognition of religion, as it being an intact and uncorrupted book, to which other books and sources should be measured and judged, and accepted only when proved to be compatible and incongruous to it. For getting acquainted with the Qur’anic view in respect of the character of the woman, I shall put forth six questions the answers of which given in this Divine Book would portray the real personality of the woman, as follows:

Creation of Man & Woman

Creation of the first man and woman has been described, in a story-like form, in many verses in the Qur’an. First Allah has apprised the angels that he was intending to place a viceroy and deputy in the earth:

“And when thy Lord said unto the angles: Lo! I am about to place a viceroy in the earth…” (Qur’an, 2:30).

In other verses in surat al-Hijr, He said to the angels:

“And remember when thy lord said unto the angels: Verily I create man of the essence of black mud fashioned into shape. So when I complete him and breathe into him My spirit, fall ye down unto him prostrating “in obeisance”.” (Qur’an, 16:28, 29).

Then He taught Adam all the names concluding a covenant with him:

“And He taught Adam the Names, all of them…” (Qur’an, 2:30).

“And indeed had we covenanted unto Adam before, but he forgot; but we did not find in him any intention “to disobey us”.” (Qur’an, 20:115).

In another place, He said:

“Enjoined I not on you O children of Adam! that ye should worship not Satan?” (Qur’an, 36:60).

After that Adam and his wife dwell in the heaven:

“And said we “O Adam! dwell thou and thy mate in the Garden…” (Qur’an, 2:34).

Then begins the temptation of the Satan when tempting Adam and his wife Eve, or falsely swearing seducing them both to perpetrate that sin through trickery, cheating them to eat from the forbidden tree, causing them to deflect from the heavens.

In the holy Qur’an, it is said:

“And said We “O Adam! dwell thou and thy mate in the Garden and eat ye two therefrom freely as ye two wish but approach not ye two this tree lest ye two will be of the transgressors! But Satan made them slip and drove them out of what they were in; and “whereupon” said We: “Get ye down! the one of you as an enemy unto the other…” (Qur’an, 2:35- 36).

Threat, rebellion and disobedience could only be produced on the part of Adam:

“And Adam acted not “to the advises of” his Lord “deceived by Satan” and got astray.” (Qur’an, 20:121).

In this stage, Adam and his wife started to apologise to the Almighty Allah for their fault, confessing their wrongdoing, seeking God’s forgiveness and mercy:

“Said they “O Our Lord! unjust have we been unto ourselves, and if Thou forgive us not and deal “not” with mercy unto us “then”, We will certainly be of the losers.” (Qur’an, 7:23).

Then Adam receives certain words and Allah relents toward him:

“And received Adam from his Lord “certain” words “of prayer” and God turned unto him “mercifully”, for verily He is the Oft turning “unto mercy”, the Most Merciful.” (Qur’an, 2:37).

Pondering and making a meditating pause on this story, the verses of which have already been quoted, we will be led to the fact that no difference or distinction is stated in the Qur’an in creation of the woman and man. Thus it is incorrect to attribute all characteristics of strength to the man and those of weakness and deficiency to the woman, since it is both talking about the human being and man or son of Adam as a symbol and specimen and representative of humankind.

Hence, in respect of vicegerency and succession, breathing of “God’s” soul, prostration “in obeisance” of angels, teaching the names, evil whispering of Satan, rebellion and disobedience, covenant and contract, selection and choosing, receiving of words, and relentless and material of creation, they are both equal.

For completing discussion of this issue, two other subjects to which the verses on creation of man referred, should be studied and perused attentively.

Woman: AUTHOR(S): Mahdi Mahrizi TRANSLATOR(S): Hasan M. Najafi

Character of Woman

August 17, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

So studying and investigating the woman’s affairs in perspective of Islam, should also be conducted from this point. Further, it is explicit that indicating the Islam’s view toward the woman should be, on the one hand, compatible to the incontrovertible religious sources, and on the other, it should be compliant and corresponding to the conclusions, necessaries and effects of this theory. Otherwise, this issue would be incompetent to be a source of dependence and basis of inference.

Our view is that from an Islamic perspective, the woman is a human being, having all development talents, with being devoid of any defect or fault in the essence of her entity. And despite her owning all factors of perfection and development, like men, but she has an independent character and never be parasite on others. Because Allah has created man and divided the human being into two classes: man and woman, for the sake of his/her eternity. And classifying the creatures into male and female is in fact a general rule, in this material world.

Allah has sworn by this reality in His Holy Book:

“And Him Who hath created male and female.” (Qur’an, 3:3).

Hence, malehood and femininity are verily not characteristics peculiar to human beings, but rather they be a means of existence of all beings. And as they can never be considered as a defect or evil on the part of all things, the same is true too in regard of human genera. This religious inference can be applied in the case of women in many aspects and respects. devoid of any defect or fault in the essence of her entity. And despite her owning all factors of perfection and development, like men, but she has an independent character and never be parasite on others. Because Allah has created man and divided the human being into two classes: man and woman, for the sake of his/her eternity. And classifying the creatures into male and female is in fact a general rule, in this material world.

The position of women in expanding the divine values/2

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

In the previous post we talked about the position of the women in expanding the values in the society and we mentioned two great women as the samples. So let’s continue that.

Another sample for helping the religion of Allah throughout the history of Islam was lady Zaynab, the honorable daughter of Imam Ali and Lady Fatimah. After the very tragic event of Karbala, an event in which the third Imam of Shia i.e. Imam Hussain (peace be upon him) and his faithful companions got martyr in a very sorrowful way, the family of troop of Imam Hussain were captured and tortured. The tyrant ruler of that time called Yazid who was the person that ordered the Imam to be killed, had changed the situation into a situation that a lot of people were thinking that this caravan of the captives are not even Muslims. But the history narrates that lady Zaynab just like her mother lady Fatimah was so brave and in different occasions was delivering very fiery, meaningful and empyreal lectures and removing the veils of negligence from the eyes of those people to the extent that the people were crying and asking forgiveness from the daughter of the commander of the faithful i.e. Imam Ali. This is the reason for the very famous saying that says: The movement of Imam Hussain continued after his martyrdom through the enlightenment of his sister Lady Zaynab and his son i.e. Imam Sajjad, and if these two great personalities were not, the martyrdom of Imam Hussain would have been forgotten.

Some women might say that we want to be the conveyer of the message of Allah which in fact is the collection of all values, but the situation is not prepared for us to expand that, so how can we do that? As the answer we say that here is a very important means by which the women can expand the values in the society and that way is through raising righteous children. The foundation of the family has so much capacity for that. We must not neglect the very high and effective position of the parents especially mothers, because usually fathers go out to their works and the ones who usually have more time for raising the children are the mothers. So they can convey the values face to face to the children from the very beginning because these children will be the effective members of the society in the future, so the responsibilities of the parents are so heavy and of course if it is done properly its effects not only benefit the parents in this world but also are the very precious remained property after the death of parents, as it is mentioned in the Narrations that the file of deeds of the people get closed when they die except some cases, and among them is the offspring which is righteous and through performing righteous deeds the parents will face many rewards and bounties.

The position of women in expanding the divine values/1

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

The main mission of the divine Prophets throughout the history was to convey the message of Allah to the people. The history bears witness that the position of the women for carrying the religions and values and expanding them in the society is obvious. There were and are some women that along with the men could and can make the society into a better state. At the beginning of the emergence of the religion of Islam the women did many attempts and faced many difficulties like being tortured and or even killed. The very famous example of the attempts of the women is Lady Khadijah; the very honorable wife of the Prophet of Islam, the wife that was the first woman to believe in the prophecy of the Prophet, the one that spent her so much property in the way of Islam. Imagine the situation that the holy Prophet had at the beginning of his divine mission. She was so patient. When the holy Prophet was so sad she was facing him with kindness and through that the sadness of the Prophet was being removed. Sometime one of the wives of the Prophet of Islam said to him: why do you many times remember Khadijah(after her death) while she was nothing but an old woman? Allah has given you better than her. The holy Prophet got angry and replied:

“I swear by Allah, He has not given me better than her. She believed in me while others were rejecting me. She affirmed me while other were denying me and she helped me through her properties while others were depriving me.”

Another very famous example and the sample for all of the women is Lady Fatimah peace be upon her; the very beloved daughter of the Prophet of Islam. She was so respected by the holy Prophet and was described many times as the very high personality. Remember that this happened in the time that for many people it was considered as a shame to have a daughter. In the time of her father and after that in the time of Imamah and divine leadership of his husband Imam Ali she was a reference for the religious knowledge. She was teaching the women of that time. After the departure of the holy Prophet she was enlightening the dark atmosphere of that time, the time in which the divine successor of the holy Prophet i.e. Imam Ali was deprived from his position of leadership.

To be continued.

Temporary marriage in Islam

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

One of the Islamic rules regarding the women is the temporary marriage. In this kind of marriage two persons get married with each other for a specific time. Some People criticize Islam because of having this rule and say that it is a way for fulfilling the lustful desires. So let’s talk about it.

The main reason of the permanent marriage is to establish a foundation of family and create the generation and raise righteous children. But one of the most important reasons of getting temporary marriage is to fulfill the sexual needs, and in this kind of marriage the creation of generation is not the main reason of that.

A question might arise here. What was the necessity of decreeing this kind of marriage in Islam if the fulfilling the sexual needs can be done through permanent marriage? Isn’t the permanent marriage enough for that?

The answer of this can be obtained through studying the quality of the instinct of the sex. There are different levels of fulfilling this need. This instinct is normal in some individuals, and it can be fulfilled just through the normal marriage i.e. permanent one. But in some cases this need is so much high to the extent that cannot be controlled by the permanent wife or in some cases because of deep dispute or the lack of tranquility the wife does not expose herself for the sexual relation. As it is so clear this need is so dangerous to the extent that if it is not fulfilled properly it might lead to different illnesses and even to the madness, and imagine that if such a need in not controlled properly what a corrupted society will form. The statistics of the illegitimate babies or the rape in the western countries is a clear witness for that. So what is the solution here? Should the individuals of the society be free and allowed to do whatever they wish, or there should be an easier rule that the heavy responsibilities that the normal and permanent marriage has, is not needed? In this case Islam has decreed a rule of temporary marriage and protected the Muslims from the adultery or other sexual deviances. We see that it is narrated from Imam Ali peace be upon him that he mentioned: If some of the caliphs had not opposed and banned the temporary marriage, no one except the very little individuals would commit the adultery.

Another important situation for the temporary marriage is when the single individuals cannot afford getting marriage for different barriers like the economic problems of finding the appropriate spouse, so in such cases controlling this very strong need of sexual matters might be so hard, in such cases some young individuals refuge to some forbidden ways for fulfilling their needs like adultery, masturbation, homosexuality etc. which all of them are the very great sins and disobedience of the Lord of the world, so the best way here is the temporary marriage.

The other important philosophy of the temporary marriage is that it can be a means through which some women who are widow and have some children can be helped financially and emotionally.

Of course this marriage must not be a way for the people of lust. There is a Narration in which one of the companions of Imam Kazim peace be upon asked the Imam about the temporary marriage. The Imam replied him: What is your need to that (meaning you do not need it), while Allah has made you out of need to it?

We know that the main mission of the divine Prophets was to oppose the selfish evil desires, so how is it possible that the religion of Islam which is the most comprehensive religion issues a rule in which the people of lust can do whatever they want? In Islamic teachings the one who sexually tastes different women is known as a cursed person and hated by Allah.

Divorce in Islam-3

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

In the previous post we said that in Islam in the normal situations the right of divorce is in the hand of men, and we also said that it does not mean that the women never have the right to separate. Someone might ask if Islam has given this right to man, so isn’t this a way in which some men can irritate and annoy their wives and in fact misuse this right? For example they can irritate their wives and do not divorce them and say that Islam has given us this right, so has Islam really let the men to oppress the women?

As the answer to this question we say that we disagree with irritating the women and this is something that definitely is forbidden and prohibited by Islam, and Islam has solutions for that. Because Islam is against any oppression so in such situations there are some rules as the solution, for example the wives can refer to the court and under some conditions, they can be divorced by law. There are some philosophies and points mentioned by some scholars regarding the rule which gives the right of divorce to the man.

The first point here is that Islam has created a balance between wife and husband. We see that from one hand it is obligatory upon the husband to pay the dowry (except in the cases that the wife forgives it) and he must supply and fulfill the needs of his wife and on the other hand the right of divorce is given to the husband.

The second point here is that according to the psychology the man is the center of intellectuality and the woman is the center of love and emotions, and she might shows her reaction quickly, but it must be taken into consideration that what we just said is not a way in which we insult the women, we do not mean that the women are not intellectual but rather we mean that the aspects of men and women are different from each other, the man needs to be more intellectual and rational for managing the family and its affairs and the woman needs to be more emotional for raising the children, so if the right of divorce was given to the women, it could be a cause for the quick divorce and collapse the foundation of the family that we mentioned that according to the Islamic teachings, it has so high and important position.

The last point here is the recommendation of Islam about divorce. In chapter Bagharah verse 229 we read:

الطَّلاَقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ

“Divorce is twice, then an honorable keeping or allowed to go with kindness.”

Or in another verse i.e. verse 231 Allah said:

وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النَّسَاء فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ وَلاَ تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لَّتَعْتَدُواْ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَلِكَ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ

“When you have divorced women and they have reached the end of their waiting period, either keep them in kindness or let them go with kindness. But you shall not keep them, being harmful, in order to transgress. Whoever does this, wrongs himself.”

Divorce in Islam-2

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Uncategorized, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

In the previous post we talked about the position of divorce in Islam. At the end we posed some questions regarding the nature of divorce, like is getting divorce good or bad? Or to whom this right must be given? Does it have any condition? So let’s continue that.

There are five possibilities or theories about the above mentioned questions:

1- Removing every condition for divorce and making it so easy to happen.

It is obvious that according to this theory, there is not any worth for the foundation of family and this covenant is not stable anymore, because every time we wish, we can divorce.

2-Opposing divorce completely.

In this case it is so clear that if the divorce is never allowed, in some families, the continuation of the relation adds nothing but everlasting hardships, because definitely in some families improving the bad situations is impossible.

3-The right of the divorce is given only to the men, and there is not any kind of releasing for women.

According to this theory in many situations women should tolerate the oppression done by their husbands and that have no way to escape from the terrible situations.

4-There must be the equal freedom for both men and women for divorce.

According to this theory the psychological differences between men and women are neglected (we will talk about them).

5-The foundation of family is sacred and worthwhile and the divorce is a hatred act, but there are some ways of separation for the families that they cannot continue their relationships anymore, and the way for coming out from those hardships is available for both men and women but the way of each, is different from that of the other. This theory is what Islam suggests.

According to the Islamic rulings in the normal situations the right of divorce is in the hand of men, but it does not mean that the women have no right for separation, because there are some situations that a woman can have this right, for example when at the time of marriage the spouses make a necessary(in its jurisprudential terminology and meaning) agreement that in some specific cases the woman will have the right of divorce, for instance they can make an agreement that if the man does so and so, the wife will be able to divorce him(as the agent of husband in divorce). For more detail please refer to the jurisprudential discussions.

To be continued.

Divorce in Islam-1

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

Islam wants the family covenant to be firm and stable and getting divorce is known in the Islamic teachings as the most hatred Halal and legal act. If two individuals want to get married with each other, according to Islamic laws it can be done so easily, but when spouses want to divorce there are some necessary conditions which make it hard to happen, like having witnesses that they are really just or the purity of the wives from the menstruation at the time of divorce.

In the religion of Islam there are many teachings regarding family that when we refer to them we understand that the foundation of family is so important, for example there are many recommendations to the wives and husbands that make the family covenant tighter, for example the women are advised to decorate themselves for their husbands or the men are advised to express their love to their wives. On the other hand in order to limit the sexual matters only for the spouses, Islam has ordered that the relation between men and women in the society must be pure and without any sexual attraction, for example expressing the love for the stranger women is forbidden or the decoration of women in public is considered as a great sin to the extent that according to the Narrations when a woman decorates herself for the stranger men, from the time of coming out to the time of returning she is being cursed by the angels of Allah. All of these recommendations that we mentioned few of them show the importance of the marriage and its stability in Islam.

Sometimes the dispute between wives and husbands can be solved through negotiations. Allah said in chapter Nisa verse 34:

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُواْ حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلاَحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا

“If you fear a breach between them send for an arbiter from his people and an arbiter from her people. If both wish reconciliation, Allah will bring success between them. Allah is the knower, the aware.”

Here is a question. If divorce is so much hatred so why has Islam allowed it and has not banned it?

First we should see whether divorce is good or bad? Because from one side it is defined as an allowed and Halal act and on the other side it is known as a hatred thing. If it is good, so everything that leads to that must be considered as a good thing. Or if it is a bad act should we close the door of that forever? Or is there any third solution?

Another question here which is important is this one: To whom should this right be given? Man or women or both?

To be continued.

Different marriages of the Prophet of Islam-2

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

We talked in the previous post about the different marriages of the Prophet of Islam and we mentioned some preliminary points regarding that, so let’s continue.

It is shocking that the marriages of the holy Prophet of Islam except one case, were with the women who mostly were widow and were in the high age or some of them even were old women or some of them were annoying him. If someone is after his lust, does he really get married with the women with such situations?

The different marriages of the Prophet had various reasons like:

-Strengthening the social position of women in the cases that his wives were widow or even old. Like what happened in the marriage to a woman called Um-Salamah( the daughter of the aunt of the Prophet) that she was the wife of one of the companions of the Prophet who got killed because of one of the wars, and she had some orphan children.

-A political act for establishing the connection with different Arab tribes and a means to gather them under the flag of Islam, because the strongest relation among the Arab was the family relations and they knew their son-in-law as one of their family members and they knew binding upon themselves to defend him.

-Removing the wrong custom of that time like what happened in the marriage to a woman called Zaynab and the story in short is that Zaynab was the wife of the adopted son of the Prophet i.e. Zayd. When Zayd divorced his wife the Prophet got married to Zaynab in order to practically remove the custom of that time that a man cannot get married to the wife of his adopted son.

Another point here is that as we said before, the condition for having more than one wife is to do justice among them. The history bears witness that the Prophet was doing justice among his wife to the extent that in most days he was visiting them, even in the time of his last moments he was observing their rights, it is narrated in the history that in the last days of his lifetime that he was so weak, he was transmitting his bed every day from one room to the other(to observe the right of being with different wives) and one day he gathered all of his wives and asked permission from them to be in the room of one of them and they all gave permission.

Different marriages of the Prophet of Islam/1

August 14, 2016/in Ethics, Women in Islam /by amin edrisi

The anti-Islamic groups criticize the holy Prophet of Islam because of the number of the wives that he had and accuse him of being a person of lust. Let’s mention some preliminary points in this regard, and then look at some philosophies of those marriages in order to remove this evil accusation.

The first important preliminary point here is that having different wives was a very common and usual custom of the people on that time and it was not only for the Prophet of Islam. The holy Prophet did not oppose many customs of that time which were not against the goals and cultural bases of Islam, and in some cases Islam changed some customs into a better form.

The other point which must be taken into consideration is that the situation of the women before Islam was so bad and their rights were violated but when the religion of Islam emerged, it gave so much honor and dignity to the women to the extent that the holy Prophet of Islam said: “The best among you are those who have the best relation and treatment with their wives and I am the best among you who treats his wives well”, and one of the last advices of the Prophet at the time of his departure was recommending about the women to be treated kindly.

Another important point here which is so shocking and helpful is that the holy Prophet of Islam when he was 25 years old got married to Lady khadijah who was (according to some historians) 40 years old and till the time of the death of Lady Khadijah the Prophet did not get married to any woman else.

If the Prophet of Islam was a person of lust, so why did he spend his youth i.e. 25 years with only one woman that(according to many historians) was older than him?

Another witness for our claim is that if the holy Prophet of Islam was after his lust, he could reach to it when the enemies of Islam told his uncle: Ask your brother’s son to leave his invitation to Islam and as the exchange, we will give him so many properties and beautiful women, but the Prophet answered to his uncle: If they give the sun into my right hand and the moon into my left hand(meaning if they give my so many precious things) in order to ask me to leave my invitation to Islam, I will not do that. So can we ascribe to such a person who is so careful about the divine religion to be lustful?

To be continued.

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Creation of Man & Woman