7 Things to Strengthen the Husband-Wife Relationship in Islam

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Husband-Wife Relationship in Islam

According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain sukun (tranquility and peace), which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things.

Following are the 7 important factors that can InShaAllah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam:

1-GOOD ATTITUDE
A Muslim must always have a positive attitude toward life. We say, “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) for whatever He gives us (or doesn’t give us).

2-HELP
Our Prophet (peace be upon him) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real “win-win” situation, if we just follow it.

3-TRUST
Muslims, men and women are ordered to be trustworthy and follow the example of our prophet (peace be upon him) as the “Trustworthy”.

4-RESPECT
You get respect, when you give respect. This is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse?

5-FORGIVENESS

Clearly, this is one of the most important aspects of Islam. Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good relationship.

6-TIME
Spend time together. Go for walks. Take a bus ride. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast together on Mondays & Thursdays if you can. Make hajj – this is a great way to get a “new start” on life.

7-WORSHIP
Our prophet, peace be upon him, used to lead his wife in salat, even though he lived connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our sunnah prayers at home.

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7 Secrets for Better Life in ISLAM

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Islam is the perfect way of life for those who know it as it is and Quran is a guide for the whole humanity to have a better life in this world as well as in the Akhira (the hereafter). Following are the 7  interesting lessons we can learn from the Quran to live a good life InShaAllah:

1-THE MOST SELFISH ONE LETTER WORD: “I” – AVOID IT!

[tabs type=”horizontal”][tabs_head][tab_title][/tab_title][/tabs_head][tab][/tab][/tabs]And he had property (or fruit) and he said to his companion, in the course of mutual talk: “I am more than you in wealth and stronger in respect of men.” [Surah Al-Kahf 18:34]

2-THE MOST SATISFYING TWO-LETTER WORD: “WE” – USE IT!

Say (O Muhammad SAW): “Shall we invoke others besides Allâh (false deities), that can do us neither good nor harm, and shall we turn on our heels after Allâh has guided us (to true Monotheism)? – like one whom the Shayâtin (devils) have made to go astray, confused (wandering) through the earth, his companions calling him to guidance (saying): ‘Come to us.’ ” Say: “Verily, Allâh’s Guidance is the only guidance, and we have been commanded to submit (ourselves) to the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists); And to perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât)”, and to be obedient to Allâh and fear Him, and it is He to Whom you shall be gathered. [Surah Al-Anaam 6:71-72]

3-THE MOST POISONOUS THREE-LETTER WORD: “EGO” – KILL IT!

He said: “This has been given to me only because of knowledge I possess.” Did he not know that Allâh had destroyed before him generations, men who were stronger than him in might and greater in the amount (of riches) they had collected. But the Mujrimûn (criminals, disbelievers, polytheists, sinners, etc.) will not be questioned of their sins (because Allâh knows them well, so they will be punished without account). [Surah Al-Qasas 28:78]

4-THE MOST ESSENTIAL TEN-LETTER WORD: “CONFIDENCE” (TRUST IN ALLAH’S GUIDANCE) – TRUST IT!

Verily, those who believe [in the Oneness of Allâh along with the six articles of Faith, i.e. to believe in Allâh, His Angels, His Books, His Messengers, Day of Resurrection, and Al-Qadar (Divine Preordainments) – Islâmic Monotheism], and do deeds of righteousness, their Lord will guide them through their Faith; under them will flow rivers in the Gardens of delight (Paradise). [Surah Yunus 10:9]

Say: “Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allâh has ordained for us. He is our Maulâ (Lord, Helper and Protector).” And in Allâh let the believers put their trust. [Surah Al-Tawbah 9:51]

5-THE MOST POWERFUL NINE-LETTER WORD : “KNOWLEDGE” (ABOUT ISLAM) – ACQUIRE IT!
By the Qur’ân, full of wisdom (i.e. full of laws, evidences, and proofs).. [Surah Yasin 36:2]

6-THE FASTEST SPREADING SIX-LETTER WORD: “RUMOUR” – IGNORE IT!
O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting) . And fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. [Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12]

7-THE HARDEST WORKING SEVEN-LETTER WORD: “SUCCESS” – ACHIEVE IT!
Men whom neither trade nor sale diverts them from the Remembrance of Allâh (with heart and tongue), nor from performing As­Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), nor from giving the Zakât. They fear a Day when hearts and eyes will be overturned (from the horror of the torment of the Day of Resurrection). That Allâh may reward them according to the best of their deeds, and add even more for them out of His Grace. And Allâh provides without measure to whom He wills. [Surah Al-Nur 24:37-38]

If you sincerely follow these things, you got the ‘secret’ of living a better life! In short, an happy and better life can be InShaAllah attained only when you follow the Quran and Sunnah properly. The above listed things are very few, there are many things you can get when you understand the Quran. So, enjoy reading!

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7 STEPS TO MEMORIZE THE QURAN

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1. Sincerity. The first matter you have to pay attention to is your intention (if you intend good you will get good). Make sure that the intention you are making is only for the sake of Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He), to seek His Pleasure so that insha’Allah, with His Mercy, we will be rewarded in the Aakhirah. It is not to show off in front of others that you have memorized a lot. Sincerity is not a one time factor rather it’s a continual battle that you always have to renew.

2. Consistency. The more frequently you memorize, the easier it becomes. It is very essential to be consistent, and not to skip even one day. There is no weekend in worship. The bare minimum that one should memorize is at least 3 lines, 5 is more ideal. If you are consistent, insha’Allah, you will be able to be huffadh in 5-6 years

3. Timing. The first thing you should do in the day is memorize – even do so before your breakfast, because this is your spiritual breakfast. The best time to memorize is right after Fajr. .

4. Find a recitation buddy: get a friend, a family member or someone you know who will listen to your recitation every day. Ideally, get someone who is also memorizing to create a peer pressure system.

5. Familiarity: start at the same time, at the same place and use the same mushaf every day. You need to have your own copy of the Mushaf (the Madani Mushaf is highly recommended), it will later become so dear to you.

6.Triple daily dose:

a) New memorization at your assigned time of the day

b) Revision of the previous 7 days, just before you start the new memorization: This is because the fastest thing you forget is the new memorization. And doing so, will also build the connector between the old ones and the new portion you are going to memorize. Plus, it will be a good warm up for the brain when you recall from your memory and recite, before you go into the real exercise of doing the new memorization.

c) At a later/another time of the day, revise those before the recent 7 days. The bare minimum should be 4-5 pages.

7. Memorize with the meaning: read the translation before you start and try to match the Arabic words with their meanings.

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7 Benefits of memorizing the Quran

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  1. since the Quran is the word of Allah Almighty, when you memorize it , this will be the best you ever done!  Memorizing the Quran will open all the doors of good for you.
  2. Memorizing the Quran means that you will obtain ten good deeds for each letter! If you know, for example that the number of letters in the shortest Surah in the Quran, which is Surah Al-Kawthar, is 42 letters. This Surah can be read in seconds, which means that whenever you read it, your account at Allah Almighty will increase to 420 good deeds, each one of these good deeds is much better than this World and what is in it!! Consider how many good deeds you will gain when you read the whole Quran which includes more than three hundred thousand letters!!
  3. The Quran includes all the sciences of this World and the Hereafter, the stories of ancestors and successors. It includes many of the scientific, cosmic, legislative and medical facts, and it includes also provisions, laws and legislation that regulate the life of a believer and make him much happier. This means that when you memorize the Quran, you memorize the largest encyclopedia.
  4. This Quran, which you memorize and keep today, will be your companion at the dying moment!! It will be your defender and your intercessor at the time you are abandoned by the nearest people.  The Prophet (pbuh) says, “Read the Quran, it will be the intercessor of its companions on the Day of Resurrection”  Will there be a best moment other than the one when meeting on the Day of Resurrection with Allah Almighty and you have memorized His words.
  5. When you memorize the Quran, your expressing ability will be stronger because of the classic Arabic you acquire from the Quran. You will have more ability for dealing, endurance and patience, because memorizing the Quran is not only like memorizing a poem, a story, or a song. However, when you memorize the Quran, in fact you are changing your attitude towards everything around you, and thus your behavior will be following what you have memorized
  6. The Quran is a healing for physical and psychological diseases. If reading Al-Fatiha (The Opening) cures a patient if Allah permits, what about who memorize the whole Quran? You will get rid of devilish whispers; your body immunity will increase due to the great change you experience while you are memorizing the Quran.  This is not only a theoretical speech but a real experience that is witnessed by those who memorized the Quran or parts of it.
  7. When you decide to memorize the Quran, you won’t have extra time, boredom, nor a feeling of concern, stress and fear.  The Quran will remove concerns, grief and the accumulations of the past, you will be reborned. Nonetheless, what prevent us from memorizing the Quran in our hearts? Why do many people try to memorize the Book of Allah Almighty but they cannot?  The reason according what I think is a big problem that we have to overcome, what is it?

7 perfect way for Losing Weight Through Islam

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It seems unfair how easy it is to gain weight and how hard it is to lose it. All of us want to reach a standard of perfection when it comes to our body image: tanned, toned, and tiny. At the same time, we shouldn’t stress ourselves out about it too much! Not only should we remember that modesty is of our faith, but we also shouldn’t forget that stress is the silent killer. With that being said, here is what Islam gave us to solve the all-too-modern problem of weight gain…

1. RAMADAN:  Ramadan  is the perfect month to tune up our physical, mental, and spiritual health. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Fast the month of Ramadan so to heal your bodies from disease.” If, during this month, we eat only the pure and unprocessed foods that Allah has provided us with (such as fruits, vegetables, wheat, grain, and beans), we can be guaranteed weight loss. The Qur’an says, “They ask thee what is lawful to them as food. Say, ‘Lawful unto you are all things good and pure.’” (5:4) “And the earth we have spread out, and we have set firm mountains on it, and have made every kind of beautiful growth to grow on it.” (50:7) OF COURSE, OUR MAIN INTENTION FOR FASTING MUST BE DEVOTION TO ALLAH (SWT) – WEIGHT LOSS IS JUST ONE OF ITS POSITIVE RESULTS.

2. X OUT THE EXCESS: This speaks for itself. A good Muslim eats to live, not lives to eat. The Qur’an says,

“Eat and drink, but waste not by excess for God loves not the prodigals.” (7:31)

The Prophet (SAW) emphasized, “The stomach is the home of disease, and abstinence the head of every remedy. So make this your custom.” He (SAW) also warned, “No human ever filled a vessel worse than the stomach. Sufficient for any son of Adam are some morsels to keep his back straight. But if it must be, then one third for his food, one third for his drink, and one third for his breath.” Eat satisfying, but small, meals. The remaining food can be saved for later or donated to the poor. It’s important to remember that if you stuff yourself with food you not only run the risk of gaining weight, but become sluggish and tired. Also, as the Prophet (SAW) told us, the stomach is the home of disease, and the more unnecessary food you eat, the weaker your immune system may become.

3. EAT BREAKFAST:
Eating breakfast speeds up the metabolism of the body; it nourishes us early in the day so that we don’t eat meals late and then sleep on them. The Prophet (SAW) said, “Eat your meal at dawn, for there is blessing in the meal at dawn,” and “There is blessing in three things: the early morning meal, bread, and soup.”

4. DRINK SUFFICIENT WATER:
Not only does water aid in weight loss, but it also flushes toxins from the body and hydrates skin so that we glow! The Qur’an says,

“We made water essential for all life.” (21:30)

Instead of drinking unhealthy beverages like soda when you’re thirsty (which, incidentally, slows your metabolism and is a factor in tooth decay), try drinking more water. I personally do my best to have 8-10 glasses of water per day and it makes me feel great.

5. HAVE PATIENCE:
So many diets are ruined because people lose heart and go back to regular routine. The Qur’an says,

“Give glad tidings to those who exercise patience when struck with adversity and say, ‘Indeed, we belong to God, and to Him is our return.’ Such ones receive blessings and mercy from their Lord, and such are the guided ones.” (2:155)

The Prophet (SAW) said, “Tie your camel first, then trust in God.” It is crucial for us to “do our best and leave God to the rest”.

6-The five prescribed daily prayers
As well as their spiritual benefits, the five prescribed daily prayers also provide physical toning benefits to the body. And patience is often the greatest test we face when we decide to lose weight. However, the Qur’an says (2:155), “Give glad tidings to those who exercise patience when struck with adversity and say, ‘Indeed, we belong to God, and to Him is our return.’ Such ones receive blessings and mercy from their Lord, and such are the guided ones.”

7-Walk walk walk
Enjoy a good morning walk. Walk to work if you can. Have a little walk after every meal. Try to go the long way around to the shops or to and from home. Try to take a hilly street or when you’re walking in the park walk up a hill. Walk in the park after you wake up and walk as it is very good for a person to take in fresh air and be in natural surroundings as it is also a proven stress reliever. Take up walking as it is an amazing exercise and very easy to as you can do it at your own pace

 

7 Principles of Success in prophet’s life

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It is a well-known fact that the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was the supremely successful man in the entire human history. But he was not just a hero, as Thomas Carlyle has called him. According to Quran, he was a good example for all mankind. He has shown us the way of achieving supreme success in this world.

By studying the life of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.), we can derive those important principles which were followed by the Prophet (p.b.u.h.). In short, the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was a positive thinker in the full sense of the word. All his activities were result-oriented. He completely refrained from all such steps as may prove counter-productive.

First Principle: (To begin from the possible) This principle is well explained in a saying of Aishah. She said: “Whenever the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) had to choose between two options, he always opted for the easier choice.” (Al-Bukhari). To choose the easiest option means to begin from the possible, and one who begins from the possible will surely reach his goal.

Second Principle: (To see advantage in disadvantage) In the early days of Makkah, there were many problems and difficulties. At that time, a guiding verse in Quran was revealed. It said: “With every hardship there is ease, with every hardship there is ease.” (94/5-6). This means that if there are some problems, there are also opportunities at the same time. And the way to success is to ignore the problems and avail the opportunities.

Third Principle: (To change the place of action) This principle is derived from the Hijrah. Hijrah was not just a migration from Makkah to Madinah. It was to find a more suitable place for Islamic work, as history proved later on.

Fourth Principle: (To make a friend out of an enemy) The prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.) was repeatedly subjected to practices of antagonism by the unbelievers. At that time Quran enjoined upon him the return of good for evil. And then, as Quran added, “You will see your direst enemy has become your closest friend” (41/34).
It means that a good deed in return of a bad deed has a conquering effect over your enemies. And the life of the Prophet is a historical proof of this principle.

Fifth Principle: (To turn minus into plus) After the Battle of Badr, about 70 of the unbelievers were taken as the prisoners of war. They were educated people. The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) announced that if any one of them would teach ten Muslim children how to read and write, he would be freed. This was the first school in the history of Islam in which all of the students were Muslims, and all of the teachers were from the enemy rank. Here I shall quote a British orientalist who remarked about the Prophet of Islam (p.b.u.h.): “He faced adversity with the determination to wring success out of failure.”

Sixth Principle: (The power of peace is stronger than the power of violence) When Makkah was conquered, all of the Prophet’s (p.b.u.h.) direst opponents were brought before him. They were war criminals, in every sense of the word. But the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) did not order to kill them. He simply said: “Go, you are free.” The result of this kind behavior was miraculous; they immediately accepted Islam.

Seventh Principle: (Not to be a dichotomous thinker) In the famous Ghazwa of Muta, Khalid Bin Walid decided to withdraw Muslim forces from the battlefield because he discovered that the enemy was disproportionately  outnumbered. When they reached Madinah, some of the Muslims received them by the word “O Furrar” (O deserters!) The Prophet said: “No. They are Kurrar (men of advancement).”

Those Madinan people were thinking dichotomously, either fighting or retreating. The Prophet said no. There is also a third option, and that is to avoid war and find a time to strengthen yourself. Now history tells us that the Muslims, after three years of preparation, advanced again towards the Roman border and this time they won a resounding victory.

In the end, I would like to repeat those  principles of success:

1. To begin from the possible
2. To see advantage in disadvantage
3. To change the place of action
4. To make a friend out of an enemy
5. To turn minus into plus
6. The power of peace is stronger than the power of violence
7. Not to be a dichotomous thinker

Source: alrisala.org

7 Significant Benefits for the Successful IN THE HOLY QURAN

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1-Allah pleased with them, they with Him.

2-Averted from torment, removed from Fire.

3-Good pleasure of Allah.

4-Directed to do good deeds.

5-Not deceived by this life.

6-They are on guidance.

7-Faith is written for them and they are strengthened.

(cf. Verses 2:2-5; 3:104, 185; 4:13; 5:119; 6:16; 7:8, 157; 9:20, 72, 88, 111; 10:62-64; 23:1, 102, 109-111; 24:51-52; 28:67; 30:38; 31:5; 33:70-1; 58:22; 59:9; 64:16; 87:14-15; 91:9)

 

7 Important way to be successful

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According to Allah in the Qur’an, the way to be successful is to Fear Him much, and to love and remember Him much, as well as often mentioning His Name. This also involves remembering His Graces upon you, worshipping Him, and begging His forgiveness. The main principles for being successful are comprised of obeying Allah and His Messenger, doing your duty to Him, seeking the means of approach to Him, by abstaining from that which is bad and doing that which is good. We need to strive hard in His Cause as much as we can, have patience, and avoid haughtiness.

The way to success involves performing some specific deeds, while avoiding the taking of some specific actions, such as performing Salat and refusing to perform sins. The Qur’an mentions the following seven actions/abstentions:

1 . Eat not Riba’ (Usury/Interest).
2 . Endure and be more patient than your enemy.
3 . Take a firm stand when you meet the enemy.
4 . Bow down and prostrate (Salat).
5 . (Women) lower gaze and protect private parts.
6 . Women not to show their adornment and draw over their veil.
7 . Avoid intoxicants, gambling and divining.

(cf. Verses 2:189; 3:130, 200; 5:35, 90, 100; 7:69; 8:45; 22:77; 24:31; 62:10)

7 PEOPLE NOT BE SUCCESSFUL IN THE HOLY QURAN

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1- polytheists

2-disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah

3-criminal

4-sinner

5-polytheist

6-pagans

7-wrongdoers

Basically these are the ones who “invent a lie against Allah” by their association of partners (shirk) or reject his Ayat (signs). This disbelief includes denying their meeting with Allah in the next life by giving it no thought. Indeed, they were warned, but this life has deceived them and their wretchedness has overtaken them. They are the ones whose good deeds are few and who do evil acts (such as Zina). They corrupt themselves and rebel against the truth with pride. They are ungrateful for their provision and have stayed with the religion of their forefathers, such as the Magicians who call the truth as clear magic. Both will be “swallowed up” and will abide in Hell.

(cf. Verses 6:21, 31, 135; 10:17, 69, 77; 12:23; 18:20; 20:69; 23:103, 117; 28:37, 82; 91:10)

7 Verses in THE HOLY QURAN about success

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1-They are on (true) guidance from their Lord, and they are the successful.
( Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #5)

2-O you who believe! Eat not Riba (usury) doubled and multiplied, but fear Allah that you may besuccessful.
(   Aal-e-Imran, Chapter #3, Verse #130)

3-Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing)
(   Aal-e-Imran, Chapter #3, Verse #185)

4-O you who believe! Do your duty to Allah and fear Him. And seek the means of approach to Him, and strive hard in His Cause (as much as you can), so that you may be successful.
(   Al-Maeda, Chapter #5, Verse #35)

5-(Remember) when you sought help of your Lord and He answered you (saying): “I will help you with a thousand of the angels each behind the other (following one another) in succession.”
(   Al-Anfal, Chapter #8, Verse #9)

6- Allah has promised the believers – men and women, – Gardens under which rivers flow to dwell therein forever, and beautiful mansions in Gardens of ‘Adn (Eden Paradise). But the greatest bliss is the Good Pleasure of Allah. That is the supreme success.
(   At-Taubah, Chapter #9, Verse #72)

7-Say: “Verily, those who invent a lie against Allah will never be successful”
( Yunus, Chapter #10, Verse #69)